Today the littlest member of the household reached an important milestone: her first hair cut! That’s right: Sula, born with a full head of hair that has been growing strong ever since, had never had her hair cut in all of her three and a half years. The time had come; the ends were brittle and unhealthy-looking. And honestly, my own hair wasn’t looking so great either. So I made appointments for the two of us at a Ouidad salon, where I had my first successful haircut in years last October. We headed out the door at 7:30 a.m. in order to make it on time to our 9 a.m. appointment, trading a day of preschool for a special girls’ day out.
Now, it’s important to note that there is no way in hell I’d let just anyone with a pair of scissors and a cosmetology certificate touch a strand of Sula’s precious ringlets. Back in the 80s, a curly-haired woman by the name of Ouidad opened the first salon in the country devoted to curly-haired customers. Now, Ouidad is a network of salons, a line of products, and a unique method of cutting and styling hair. You can read more about it here. You might not know this about me, but I actually have curly hair. I used to have really curly hair, and had great success following a simple routine of using cheap conditioner and gel and air-drying to bring out the best in my hair. But after giving birth to Bo it changed dramatically, into a stringy, frizzy mess that I didn’t know what to do with. I subsequently had a series of disastrous haircuts that left me sobbing in the privacy of my car in various salon parking lots around the state, along with stylists who tried to convince me that it’s no big deal to wash, blow dry, straighten, and use a curling iron (!!) every day to look presentable. Finally, about six months ago, I got sick and tired of looking like crap and/or straightening my hair every day. I started researching curly hair salons and came across Ouidad. I read every review of all the Ouidad-certified salons within a hundred mile radius (there aren’t that many, unfortunately) and settled on a decidedly unpretentious salon whose loyal clients who drive across state lines to get their hair done by the decidedly unpretentious salon owner, Maria, with whom I made an appointment.
The Ouidad salon experience is so unlike any other. The stylists working there actually have curly hair. The clients come in with curly hair and leave with curly hair, too. They cut your hair in a way that works well both straightened or left curly, and teach you how to style it at home to achieve the same results. Maria is a no-nonsense, middle-aged Portuguese woman who- unlike many, many stylists I’ve encountered- will tell you straight-up that you don’t need to get your hair cut every six to eight weeks. The cuts are expensive (as are the products, but I find that I have just as much success using cheaper products with the Ouidad styling method) but if you aren’t stripping your hair with sulfates and frying it with a blow dryer every day, you only need two or three per year; Maria fully expects Sula’s to last over a year. Bottom line: these people know what they are doing. If you or your child have curly hair, get thee to a Ouidad salon, pronto. They work with every type of curl from loose waves to tight kinky curls. I promise that it’s worth the investment.
Okay, enough with the Ouidad promotion. I just had to put that out there for those seeking help for their or their child’s curly hair. On to the fun part: pictures!











GORGEOUS!! i am going to see if there is one in my area!
Beautiful Sula!!!
I can’t believe her hair was so long when pulled straight out! She has beautiful curls and they did a great job.
She looks adorable!
Her hair is awesome! I looked for someplace in our area and the closet is 3 hours away. I want to try something new on his hair. I would say it is kinky (many pics on my blog) and I currently use Curly Q products. It seems a little dry. What cond./leave in would you suggest from this line or others. Thanks!
Hi Jennifer,
The stylist gave us a gift of the Ouidad Krly Kids No More Knots 2-in-1 Conditioner that can be used as a detangling rinse and a leave-in conditioner for styling. I’m using it because it was free, smells good and actually works pretty well, but I think it’s kind of expensive and I try to do hair as cheaply (and also sulfate/silicone free, which the Ouidad products are not…) as possible! Most of the time I just use Trader Joe’s Tea Tree Tingle conditioner because it’s very moisturizing and has a lot of “slip” to make detangling easier. When her hair needs a little more definition I use Qhemet Biologics products, which are natural and smell good but probably not worth the money. I’ve also used the Curly Q line- I loved the conditioner and the milkshake (although for Ashenafi I might try the custard if you haven’t already since I know it’s thicker) but HATED the “moisturizer/detangler” that seemed to neither moisturize nor detangle.
For a salon with curly hair expertise, you can also try the “Deva” line, very similar to Ouidad. The founder of Deva is Lorraine Massey, the author of the book Curly Girl, and like Ouidad, they certify stylists around the country. Their website is http://www.devaconcepts.com
Ashenafi’s hair looks great, although I can see how it might feel dry. The first thing I would try if you haven’t already is making your own products- it’s MUCH easier than it sounds! I do it all the time for skin care for my Ethiopian kids, but I’ve done budget hot oil treatments with a bowl of olive oil in the microwave and a disposable plastic shower cap
For hair that just needs a bit *more* of something, I would try making a leave-in product, like conditioner + oil. Mix together a good store-bought conditioner with some good oil (jojoba, coconut, olive, etc.). You can try adding a bit of melted (in the microwave) shea butter or cocoa butter or aloe vera gel or the oil from vitamin E capsules or anything else that strikes your fancy. I have a little hand blender that I use to really emulsify everything, but stirring with a spoon would do also get the job done. I never measure anything and if it comes out weird, I just throw it away and try again.
Good luck, and please share if you come up with any interesting new combinations!
This is wonderful! I even use the Trader Joe’s products so I will try them on him. I do use the Custard but, it still gets so fuzzy. I am going to try some homemade stuff and also check out the Qhemet site. Thanks so much!!!
I couldn’t agree more about the Curly Q detangler..yuck!
So I was given this Moroccan Oil Treatment to try on his hair and it combed through so much easier. The only problem is it has silicone and I am not sure about sulfates. Is it bad for his hair to use this after conditioning?
http://www.moroccanoil.com
I experimented over the weekend with shea/vit E/jojoba oil/curly q cond…I am going to need some practice! Not so good results.
Sorry I’m so late in responding to this- have you been liking the Moroccan Oil? My pre-Ouidad hairdresser was really into it, as was (oddly) my sister’s hairdresser, so we were both convinced to try it and separately came to the conclusion that it was sort of “meh.”
The issue with silicone is complex; basically, it causes a buildup on hair that can only be removed with a sulfate-based shampoo. We follow the no-poo/Curly Girl method for Sula (and I’m “low-poo” myself). Check out naturallycurly.com and this post for more information:
http://dormroomcurly.blogspot.com/2008/12/style-definitions-table.html
I’m curious to know more about your experiment- what went wrong? Having several failed experiments myself, I can probably help you troubleshoot
Hi
We’ve met a few times in the last 2 yrs and I happened to stumble across your blog. I love it and I share a lot of your struggles so it is encouraging to see that I’m not alone and that we all just want to do right by our children and that having children born in another country by another woman can pose some challenges. …and at times, a lot of challenges. Anyway, I wanted to say hi since we have met and I feel so nosy reading without saying anything.
Marianne
mom to Ryan and just recently Michael
we met at the apple farm, Drucilla’s and at culture camp
Um, Marianne, of course I remember you
Welcome!
You are so unbelievably wise and helpful.
I used a little jojoba, vitamin e, curly q conditioner and some melted shea butter. I think I used to much shea butter because it just felt waxy. Since then I bought the detangling ghee and burdock root leave in and love it! More specifically the burdock root product. No fuzz all day long. I just wet his hair and apply the product and finger comb the best I can the next day. I hope that is right…always learning!
Not thrilled with the Moroccan oil anymore. The first time it worked great because his hair was really wet but, applying it to damp or dry hair, not so helpful. My husband loves it which is very odd!